Canadian Geese.

goose201 I am not a fan.

I used to think they were nice until I worked someplace that had three ponds, two in front of the entrance to the building, requiring me to navigate a narrow path that held a multitude of geese. And that’s when I realized that Canadian Geese are really just militant bat shit crazy birds.

Trust me on this. They are evil and they plotting to take over the suburbs. It’s just a matter of time before they are elected to government positions.

DON’T be fooled by adorable pictures. These are asshole birds. AND they have no self regulation on their sanitary habits. In other words, geese poop all over the damn place.

I have advice for those of you young novices on how to deal with goose patrols. NEVER show any weakness. NEVER. Look them in the eye and keep walking toward your objective, even if they are in the way. They expect you to walk around. But that is weakness. Do not do it. They will move.

If you show weakness they will attack for arbitrary reasons that no doubt seem valid in their brains. But since their brains are the size of peanut, we can assume there is no valid reason. So don’t show weakness.

If one attacks or shows aggression, it will mark you to all the others. So never show weakness.

I’ll be honest. It is only the strictest sense of animal loving integrity that stops me from buying a shot gun and slaughtering them wholesale. They are dicks.

Get some Perspective

Stop being afraid of being bombed by a terrorist.

Unless you live in Syria or similar locality, your odds of dying or being injured while driving to work are far far far greater.

You aren’t afraid to drive to work. And no one is spending billions of dollars to save you from death by driving to work.

In fact, you may not realize it, but if you live in North America or Europe you really don’t experience much in the way of terrorism from ISIS. You don’t realize it because our media don’t report too much on the horrible terrorists attacks in the Middle East and Africa.

tumblr_o4kvblpjcv1rscydeo1_500 — Can’t find the original to attribute this. A correction – It should be San Bernardino, not San Diego. Also Baghdad, Not Bagdad

As you might naturally conclude, ISIS is almost universally hated in the Muslim World.

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So, lets assume that you are a Syrian Refugee. Your sister was killed 4 feet from you and you have fled with your family. But now you are separated from your family who are all in different refugee camps. No country wants you because they have ignorantly branded all Muslims as terrorists. So now people think you are the very thing you hate so much. Imagine how unfair and horrifying that would feel as you remember holding your dead sister in your arms screaming in terror and anger at ISIS.

Muslims are not our enemies. They are not evil. They are humans. Just like you and me and they are being persecuted by both ISIS and Western Nations. ISIS, I won’t try to explain.

But us. We are treating them like garbage out of ignorance and fear. Its horribly unfair and stupid. Stop adding disdain to their horror.

Stop the Panic. Get some Perspective.

Stop feeding the terrorism with irrational fear. Start treating your fellow humans with compassion and kindness.

Did you know?

That Trump, Cruz, Clinton and Sanders all favor gun regulation? To differing degrees to be sure, but all of them are OK with regulation and have some form of proposal for it. Trump favors extending the waiting period and eliminating Assault Rifles, while Sanders wants there to be instant background checks and no semi-automatic weapons. But some kind of regulation – everyone agrees.

Did you know…

That Trump, Cruz, Clinton and Sanders all favor Israel. With Sanders being almost critical and the rest be unreservedly in support of Israel.

Did you know…

That ~~Trump~~, Clinton and Sanders all favor increasing taxes on the very wealthy? Cruz has a flat tax proposal that he thinks is going to save the country. But the ~~rest of them~~ Clinton & Sanders think we need to make those 1% stand up for more of their share. [Keith has pointed out that Trump actually wants to reduce the tax rate on the wealthy – my information was from 17 years ago. Apparently, he no longer thinks the wealthy need to pay more]

Did you know…

That Trump, Cruz, Clinton and Sanders all favor creating jobs. I know – that surprises no one.

Did you know…

That Cruz and Clinton favor the USA Freedom act? Sanders is against and I couldn’t find Trumps position, except that he is pro surveillance, so… probably fine with it.

Did you know…

That Trump, Cruz, Clinton and Sanders all favor preserving social security and Medicare. That all of them want to reform the Veterans Administration? Again – that surprises no one, but its important to recognize the similarities.

There are obviously many stark differences along party lines, but the differences between Trump & Cruz and Sanders & Clinton are fairly nuanced.

Between Trump & Cruz the largest difference is on taxes – Cruz is very keen on a flat tax and removing the IRS. Trump wants to cut spending except on military and ~~increase~~ decrease tax on billionaires.

Between Sanders & Clinton the biggest difference is in Security/Privacy & Healthcare. Sanders thinks we shouldn’t sacrifice our rights and privacy to fight terrorism, Clinton is OK with doing that. Sanders wants a true Universal Healthcare Plan, Clinton wants to improve the current ACA.

I think it’s important to note that the differences between the party candidates get inflated on social media and by the candidates themselves in an effort to claim distinctiveness.

I’m worried about the polarization

of human political discussion.

In my lifetime, I’ve never before felt like the everyone is either a Conservative or a Liberal. I didn’t even think about their political thoughts. I just met them as people. Their political leanings didn’t enter into my judgement of their character. But over the last 10 years, I have evolved an unconscious bias of judging people based on conservative or liberal. ITS VERY DISTURBING.

The reason that I do this new character assessment is that for the last 10 years I have been breathing the ether of the internet on a daily basis. When I’m on Twitter or Tumblr or Reddit – politics is everywhere. Memes abound. And what is interesting is that these people who post all seem to agree with ME.

Because the internet serves us our portions with algorithms that assess what we like and then give us more of that, our politics become a defining character of our internet experience. Google, Twitter, Tumblr all know that I’m liberal. They feed me what I want to see.

Some of it I do to myself. I chose my followers in Twitter – my first social media experience based on some things I was avidly interested in at the time. Those things tend toward the liberal side of the coin – science and skepticism. Then I started to play Favstar on Twitter. I naturally followed the other people whose funny tweets I liked. I, of course, thought tweets that reinforced my own liberal bias were funnier. So I was choosing my own echo chamber. I started on tumblr by following all my twitter followers and so it went.

I’m keenly aware that I’m living in an internet bubble because I work in a conservative fish tank. There are 3 liberals and 47 conservatives where I work. And this reminds me daily that being a conservative is NOT a character flaw. Which is the message that is served to me daily in twitter and tumblr.

I’ve tried not to create my own echo chamber at WordPress. We will see if it works.

Here’s the thing. These echo chambers isolate our viewpoint. They reinforce it and coax it out toward the edges of extremism. Because there is nothing to temper it. To remind us that perfectly reasonable people have different views.

The isolation of a viewpoint is how they create a terrorist. They physically isolate them from seeing any other viewpoint and then keep hammering in the same ideas. And those ideas become the ONLY way. The only right thing. It makes an unnatural extremism seem normal and right.

On the internet, we don’t have to physically isolate ourselves to only see one view point. We only have to go to our favorite hangouts. And the algorithms and our natural tendency to choose people who agree with us will do the rest. Of course we all experience real life, so we aren’t in danger of being terrorists, but we ARE in danger of creating an unnatural dichotomy. Of a confirmation bias that is setting us up for failure.

I’ve read from credible sources that this extreme polarization has happened before in the US, and I suppose it’s happened elsewhere. But I can’t help seeing that uniqueness of our current lives on the internet is contributing.

That girl with the bad attitude.

I think there are 2 different kinds of “bad attitude” people. (In the US we often label complainers as having a bad attitude)

There’s people who resent having a job that for one reason or another they don’t like. So everything is wrong and they have no interest in a solution because they get their satisfaction from the complaint.

And then there’s the people who care. They care deeply and they get angry when things are going badly and no one is fixing it. They complain as well.

A key to good management is sorting the difference. You can turn the people people who care into idea generating dynamos. They come up with effective ideas and make managers look awesome.

The thing is – it is easy to just lump anyone who gripes into a pile of bad attitude and dismiss them with a big “no one likes change” response. But the reality is that it is a bad management technique not to listen to anyone. And it is worse if you can’t discern who is complaining because they resent the job and who is complaining because they actually care about the job.

Complaints are the most important thing a manager can listen to. That is where you get the information you need to make things better.

Female Warriors, a metaphor with troubles.

I struggle with depression and anxiety. I’ve recently adopted a personal metaphor of being a warrior against the parts of my brain that don’t function as they should.

So occasionally I search for a female warrior image that matches the emotional state of my struggle.

And this is when I became hyper aware of the weird fetishizing of women as warriors. Maybe I shouldn’t even call it a fetish because those images predominate.

It is nearly impossible to find an image where the breasts are not carefully delineated and huge. And many just show the breast naked. I’ve seen images where the woman is naked and has a leather strap around her waist while she carries a sword.

Then there’s the weird poses. You know the ones I mean. Just look at the cover of any book or movie poster with women in action roles and they are arching their back awkwardly to push forward the breast or their hips. They are angled so their butts show, their dress is slit and their leg is up to show the thigh. And generally the perspective of the viewer is such that a body part like the breast is the predominant feature of image.

In other words they are selling sexual suggestion. The thing is that this is so predominant that it’s normal and I never paid much attention to it. It’s been that way my whole life. But when I wanted to select images that reflected my particular emotional state it became suddenly clear that finding images with any emotional state besides sexuality was going to be something of a challenge.

So I try very hard to avoid images that turn the woman into a sexual object instead of a warrior. Its so demeaning to the very concept of warrior, isn’t it? It basically says this woman is actually just a toy for men that is playing at being a fighter. Don’t take her seriously.

I prefer my images to be she’s serious and possibly deadly. cb48c4d911ccc83280384d5f8cc963c7

Foolish Assumptions

So, the other day a troll landed on my site and told me I couldn’t use the term “It’s a Thought” because he wrote a book with that name.

I decided not to feed the troll and among the very valid reasons was a petty one. I thought he used “It’s” wrong because he used an apostrophe. I have been using its instead of it’s for the contraction it is. Convinced that I was doing it right.

Then K E Garland and I started to chat about it and she pointed out, quite kindly, that I was wrong.

Here’s the thing. I was utterly sure. I didn’t question myself. I didn’t check it. I was SURE so there was no need to check it.

Think about that for a while. I mean apostrophes are unimportant in the grand scheme of things. It’s just a funny “I’m an idiot” story. I have had this happen to me before. On a much larger and more soul horrifying way. But it points to the fact that I am wrong about other things that I don’t even know to question.

How many things in my life are there that I am so convinced of that I don’t even think about them and I’m WRONG. How Many? This is a silly reminder to stay vigilant to my assumptions.

Hundreds and Hundreds of tiny assumptions and some of them are WRONG.

Review of A Cat

3 out of 5 stars

Seller did not mention that parts continually fall off the model. Small, barely detectable parts then accumulate on all surfaces in detectable amounts. Its apparently supposed to do that, but its seriously inconvenient.

There was an attempt on the part of the manufacturer to create a system, within the model I obtained, to collect the parts before they fall off and then eject them in one place. But this is VERY disgusting and the ejection often takes place in a place inconvenient to myself.

Overall, I cannot recommend the model to anyone who has an issue with deep cleanliness.
There are redeeming “cute” and “cuddly” features, which keeps me from just throwing out the model in favor of a new vacuum cleaner. It’s probably a personal preference.

If you choose to keep the model, I would recommend training yourself to accept and ignore the constant interference that will be inflicted on you. Since you chose to keep it, you probably love it, so throwing it across the room is not an option, however justified it may seem objectively. Instead you must learn to adjust your daily functions to accommodate for whatever it wants to do. Because, its going to do it regardless.

Its the People, Not the Stuff

I think life is not about what you have, or where you are, or even what you have done. Life is about who you are with and the moments you share with them.

We forget that because our culture emphasizes what kind of home you have, what kind of clothing you have, what kind of phone you have. The first thing people want to know about you is what you do. And we play the ‘places we have been” at parties like its a trump card.

We pursue the larger home, the better career, and newest thing because we think these things are the key to happiness.

But all of that is just the supportive structure for who you are with. Because the interactions between people are how we define ourselves and how we enjoy our lives.

Our happiest moments are when we are with people we love. People are important. Everything is just support for that forgotten fact.

We think that going on vacation will make us happy. But its not the vacation, its the people we enjoy the vacation with that make us enjoy it. We think having a large home will make us happy, but not if you are lonely in your large home.

I’m a depressed introvert and I still know this is true. I may not always want to in the same room with people, but people are the substance of all the best moments of my life. And the worst.

Our culture has made us forget the essential thing that makes human life bearable is humans. The moments between us are the real value in our lives.

How To Control Your Craving – with your BRAIN.

Apparently, if you imagine eating the thing you crave it helps. Well. You can’t imagine eating it once. You have to imagine eating it 30 times.

Yup. 30 times. You have to close your eyes and walk through the process of eating and savoring and enjoying your food of choice. 30 times in a row.

WHY ISN’T ANYTHING EASY?????

I mean who can just stop what they are doing to imagine eating a piece of cake over and over 30 times? It takes less than 5 minutes to eat cake, which I can do while working – it would probably take 15 to create the fantasy.

In my life, I would spend at least 12 hours of my day with my eyes closed snarfing my way down a Hogwarts style dining table. At some point, my employer is going to get annoyed with my constant war against the craving and just shove a piece of cake down my throat.