I had a physical and follow up visit with my doctor yesterday morning. I very much was not interested in going when I woke up. The stillness was enveloping me.
But that was the reason I needed to go. Also I have a spot on my leg that my anxiety has diagnosed as skin cancer.
But I went. Using all my mental resources to push the rock up the mountain and get moving. I love my doctor. She is kind and thorough and responsive. She listens.
So. We adjusted the depression meds. And she told me I don’t have skin cancer. And she ran a calculator on my risk factors for a heart attack and found it’s only 2.5% in the next 10 years – which is basically just the standard of the general population. And since I’ve been harboring an anxiety that I will die of a heart attack at 55 like my father did that released another anxiety.
I normally feel like I flunk every doctor’s appointment. Something is diagnosed as wrong and then we have to treat it and then we follow up for what feels like dozens of times trying to get it fixed. So it feels nice to have only depression which feels like the normal.
Which is, of course, why it’s problematic. I think this way I’m living is normal. It’s not. It’s just the life I’m used to. But when she ran through the questions for anxiety/depression it struck me that this REALLY IS WRONG. It’s amazing how awful living just stops feeling wrong and just feels like awful is normal. And in many ways, my ability to manage my depression and keep functioning is why it feels OK. I never felt like it was OK when I was unemployed and stayed in bed 23.5 hrs a day. But now I have a job and an apartment and I keep a minimum standard of living going. It tricks me into thinking life is supposed to be this way.
Hopefully the meds will kickstart a new path in my brain that I can take advantage of.