The Reality vs the Reality Show.

This is the Women for Trump Event at the RNC.  The few chairs filled are journalists and interns.

Trump is losing his grip on the Reality Show he’s running for his Presidential campaign.  In a Reality Show, outrageous behavior gets views.  And so the circus that is Trump is getting lots of attention.

But it’s important to remember, that there is a large and important difference between Reality Shows and actual reality.  And the behavior that garners so much attention is indicative of some very disturbing realities.

Donald Trump has continually shown his disdain for women.

As Megyn Kelly pointed out to him during the debate, “You have called women you don’t like ‘fat pigs’, ‘dogs’, ‘slobs’, and ‘disgusting animals.”

Those are things that are publically recorded.  Think about that.  Trump, as much as we see of him, is living 90% of  his life outside the public record.

I don’t suppose that his off record behavior is actually better than what we see in public.

And while his open contempt for women is disturbing, his attitude toward sexual assault is disgusting.

Actual Tweet by Donald Trump:

26,000 unreported sexual assults [sic] in the military-only 238 convictions. What did these geniuses expect when they put men & women together?

The belief that sexual assault is inevitable is one that comes from a belief that women are merely objects for penetration by a man’s penis.

The belief that sexual assault is inevitable comes from the personal experience of not governing your own desires and thinking that is normal and acceptable behavior.

Those beliefs are leftovers from the past.  A past we should have left behind.

Then we must consider his disgust at the IDEA of a woman’s breast being used to feed a baby.

During a court proceeding, one the lawyers requested a break in the session because it was time for her to pump milk.  Many men might find that mildly uncomfortable.  But Trump found it so uncomfortable that he stood up and said “You’re disgusting” to the lawyer before leaving the room.  His lawyer doesn’t deny it.

He made a scene about it, in a circumstance where it was incumbent to his best interest to be polite and act appropriately because he was so disgusted that a woman would use her breast to feed her infant.

That illustrates his belief that women are merely sexual beings and his inability to capture any other part of a woman’s existence in his brain.

It also illustrates his inability to control his behavior in situations where good social behavior in not only expected but is in his best interest.  Whether or not he even recognizes that his behavior is inappropriate is in question as well.

I think it’s possible that Trump is afraid of women.  And that is why he acts this way.

He wrote the following in “The Art of the Comeback”

“Women have one of the great acts of all time. The smart ones act very feminine and needy, but inside they are real killers. The person who came up with the expression ‘the weaker sex’ was either very naive or had to be kidding. I have seen women manipulate men with just a twitch of their eye — or perhaps another body part.”

He clearly doesn’t see women as people.  He sees them as an antagonist he must overcome.  He’s obsessed with them, certainly, but he doesn’t think of them as complex personalities that he can get to know and be friends with.

His own feelings of inadequacy have mixed into his feelings of fear and disdain for women and we see him lose control repeatedly when women criticize him.

Look at how he insults the women who have either mocked him or reported negatively on him.

He sent a copy of Gail Collin’s article to her with her face circled and the words “The Face of a Dog” written on it.  She had called him a “thousandaire”.

He said Rosie O’Donnell was an animal, a slob, talks like a truck driver, is rude, obnoxious and dumb.  Because O’Donnell has used her comedy to skewer him repeatedly and well.

He called Megyn Kelly a bimbo because she asked him questions that made him look bad.

He called Ariana Huffington unattractive, both inside and out and said her ex husband made a good decision leaving her for a man. Because – well… the Huffington Post.

He said Bette Middler had an ugly face and body because she insulted his hair.

The Reality Show is good at hurling insults.  100s of them come rolling out of his Twitter account.  Literally 100s.  And it makes good theater and is certainly helping his campaign. And to be fair, these example of insults are only a small fraction of the factory of insults that run out of his brain nearly constantly.

But there is something rather too far in certain insults he throws at women who criticize him, isn’t there?  He makes too many of the insults about appearance because he can’t conceive of women as anything more than an object of sexual use.

He’s obviously overly sensitive to any form of criticism.  Which when you consider the venture he’s taken on, is a very bad quality.  If there is a more pernicious and impertent attack on privacy and self than running for and being President of the United States, I’m not aware of it.  It requires the sort of self control and self definition that can withstand constant and petty attacks from all sides and keep at least the appearance of polite indifference.

Trump has proven over and over that he doesn’t have that self control.  The insults that run out of his Reality Show are not just to keep him from being voted off the island.  They are the gut reaction of a man with some serious problems with women and his own self identity.

Do we want that person in control of our ENTIRE country?