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Because this is life. Why is this even a question?

Being single is not a problem that needs an explanation. It just is where life is at that moment. It’s a changeable state that doesn’t require changing.

Life does not end up where you are today because of one thing that happened, or one person or one choice. Life is a huge web of things we did, or we didn’t do, things we believed or didn’t believe, things that happened or didn’t happen, people we met or didn’t meet.

It’s NOT a question that can be answered without just giving you a moment by moment account of my life. It cannot even be narrowed down.

And all attempts to find a reason, to narrow it down are foolish and self destructive.

Life is here. This is where we are so far. There’s no accounting to be given to anyone, so fuck the people who ask for it.

The idea that couplehood is the better state is the root of so much unhappiness.

And that idea is at the root of this meme question. Fuck That Noise. Reject the premise.

If you value the concept of couplehood over yourself, you make bad choices for a partner.  You start including the value of couplehood in your choices for someone to be with.  And that leads to bad decisions.

You have seen it happen.  You may even have done it.  Imagine if our society didn’t value couplehood over the single state.  Imagine how differently those situations would have unfolded.  Imagine how many people would be doing entirely different things with their lives.

People may still end up in bad relationships without valuing the concept of couplehood, but I would bet on at least a 50% reduction in bad relationships.

OK.  I’m getting off the soapbox now.

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    1. They are actually having kind of an issue with this in Japan. Marriage AND births are declining badly. I think with each successive generation we fall away from the tradition of marriage. But couplehood is pretty deeply embedded. I don’t suppose it will go away anymore than I suppose Japan’s declining birthrate means the extinction of the Japanese. 😀

      My point is that we no longer have to consider single life as a tragedy that should be remedied or pitied. It’s not.

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