When I was growing up my dad said:
- Eat that, it will put hair on your chest.
- Are you wearing perfume, you smell like a $2 hooker.
- I wonder what those poor bastards on shore are doing? (when we sailed away from a harbor.)
- Get a degree in computer programming. It’s the future. (1977 to my sister, but I wish I had listened to him. I got a degree in English Lit.)
- Children are to be seen and not heard.
- I used to swim with bow legged women.
My father had three daughters. He expected all of us to go to college. He expected us to work when we graduated. He didn’t say that, but it was planned for. What do you want to do when you grow up, where do you want to go to college were conversations.
It wasn’t until I graduated from college in 1988 that I realized that this was not a normal expectation.
He didn’t treat us as girls, but neither did he treat us as though he wished we were boys.
I don’t think he ever said anything that made me feel I was limited in my options by gender roles.